Ok, ok, ok. The truth is, we are tired of swiping left, right, and upside down on these apps, only to end up with men who “forgot” to mention their three roommates. If you’ve ever wanted to throw your phone across the room after one more “wyd?” text—I feel you.
But good men are out there. They’re just not always hiding behind filtered selfies and grotesque bios. Sometimes you gotta step outside your normal routine and let life do a little matchmaking. *ahem ahem Tiera*
So let’s talk about the best places to meet men—yes, the kind who still believe in eye contact, conversation, and maybe even holding the door open for you.
1. Networking & Professional Events
Don’t underestimate the power of walking into a room full of ambitious men. Conferences, industry mixers, or even local business panels are crawling with men who value growth, ambition, and showing up for themselves. And guess what? A man who invests in his career usually understands investing in a relationship too………. Usually…
2. Travel & Adventure Activities
Something about airports, tours, and group adventures makes people more open and friendly. Whether it’s a weekend wine tour, a hiking group, or even a solo cruise—you’d be surprised how many conversations start over shared experiences.
3. Volunteering & Community Events
This one’s so underrated that I actually hadn’t even considered it before until now. A man who shows up to give his time to others already has a giving spirit. Food banks, mentoring programs, charity runs are prime for meeting someone who actually cares about more than himself.
4. Gyms & Fitness Classes
Men who take care of their health are more likely to encourage you to take care of yours. And chile, the endorphins are real—you might leave with a toned booty and a date. And let’s be real, ain’t nothing wrong with a bit of eye candy👀. Yes, I know the gym can feel intimidating, but try group classes (spin, boxing, yoga, even salsa dancing) as a way to ease into it.
5. Parent-Friendly Spaces
Listen, as solo moms, we’re not always free to hit happy hour. But parks, kid-friendly festivals, and family events? They’re full of dads, uncles, and big brothers who love showing up for their families. Cause if I see ONE MORE FINE AHH single dad at the indoor playground, I’m finna just start a sign-up sheet at the door! And the bonus here is obvious: they already get the parenting thing.
6. Everyday Errands (No, Really)
Don’t sleep on the grocery store, the bookstore, or even Home Depot on a Saturday morning. Sometimes “casual cute” in the frozen aisle turns into a “Can I grab your number?” moment. The key is to stay approachable—phone down, smile up. *ahem ahem Tiera*
7. Faith-Based Events
Church service, spiritual retreats, Mass, etc are often times the BEST way to meet quality men. Having similar spiritual beliefs is a great way to find common ground with a man. Obviously it’s not the end all to be all but it’s a likely start.
✨ Final Word
The best place to meet men isn’t really about the location, it’s about you. When you’re living your life, doing what you love, and showing up with joy and confidence, you naturally attract people who vibe with that energy. A good man will see your glow and want to step closer. *ahem ahem Tiera* 😂😂
This is so powerful. I’ve been learning how to notice, name, and nurture my own experiences through my healing framework, and your words remind me I’m not alone. Sending you love on your journey 💫.