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Mental Health & the Solo Mom Life
We need to talk. Not about them churrin, not about your annoying boss, not about these raggedy men—but about YOU.🫵🏽
Being a single mom is hard enough. But when you add mental health struggles to the mix? Whew, chile.😩 It’s a whole different battle. And I know because I’m right there with you.
Let me keep it super duper real—I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety/depression, and mood disorder. Some days, I feel like I’m gliding on water. Other days, I feel like I’m drowning. And let’s not talk about the medication—extreme fatigue and appetite changes anyone? But what makes it even harder is feeling like I have to do it all alone.
But here’s what I now know to be true: We are not alone. And we don’t have to suffer in silence.
The Truth About Mental Health & Single Moms
Let’s get real about the numbers for a second:
✔️ Single moms are twice as likely to experience depression compared to married moms.
✔️ Nearly 1 in 4 single moms struggle with a mental health disorder.
✔️ Most of us don’t ask for help—because we feel guilty, ashamed, or just plain exhausted.
And let’s be honest—when you’re in survival mode, mental health often takes a backseat. We’re too busy making sure our kids are okay, the bills are paid, and life keeps moving. But sis, you deserve to be okay, too.
How to Take Care of Your Mental Health (Even When Life is a Pile of Hot Garbage)
1. 🛑 Stop Feeling Guilty for Struggling
First of all, let’s shut down that guilt. Struggling with mental health does not make you weak. It does not make you a bad mom. It makes you human. You’re out here doing the work of two people and your children love you for it.
2. Find a Support System (Even If It’s Small)
Not everyone will understand what you’re going through, but that’s okay. Find the people who do—whether it’s a therapist, a friend, a support group, or an online community of solo moms who get it.
3. Make Space for Your Own Needs
I know, I know—this sounds impossible when you have kids pulling at you 24/7. But even if it’s just:
✔️ Waking up 10 minutes earlier for quiet time
✔️ Letting the kids watch a movie or get on their tablet so you can breathe
✔️ Taking a mental health day when you need it
You matter, too.🫶🏽
4. Pay Attention to the Signs
If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, or like you’re finna snap on somebody any minute now—don’t ignore it. These could be signs that you need more support. There’s no shame in reaching out for help.
5. Don’t Be Afraid to Consider Medication
I know this may sound extreme or even scary. But if your mental health struggles feel like too much to manage on your own, there’s nothing wrong with getting extra help—and for some that may include medication. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. It doesn’t mean you’re failing. And it surely doesn’t mean you’re crazy! It just means you’re taking care of your whole self. Because of my diagnoses, I am currently on medication and I will be very honest, along with prayer—it has changed my entire life. If you’re struggling, talk to a doctor or psychiatrist about what options might work for you.
6. Remind Yourself: You Are Doing Enough
The world expects single moms to be superheroes. But the truth is? You don’t have to do it all, all the time. Some days, just getting through is a win.
You Are Not Alone in This
If you take nothing else from this post, take this: You are not alone. You are not failing. And you are worthy of care, love, and support.
If no one else has told you today—I see you, sis. I understand you. I’m rooting for you. I am you.
Let’s keep this conversation going. Drop a comment or share your story. Let’s support each other through the hard days and celebrate the good ones.
Sending you love & light always,
Tiera Nicole